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Passport Bros: Are They Looking for Love or Women Easier to Control?
They say they are leaving the West to find “traditional women.” Women who are feminine. Submissive. Respectful. Less demanding. They call themselves passport bros; men who […]
Can a Christian Participate in Water Cleansing at a Temple In Bali?
I stood there watching them. Green sarongs wrapped neatly around their bodies. Red cloth tied firmly at the waist. Incense rising into humid air. Offerings floating […]
Choose Yourself: A Woman’s Guide to Decentring Men
Women are taught to build their lives around being chosen. Chosen for marriage. Chosen for commitment. Chosen as desirable, agreeable and worthy of love. No matter […]
SURVIVORS DO NOT NEED APPLAUSE, THEY NEED SUPPORT
Every time I post about surviving rape, the comments flood in: “You are so strong.” “You are such an inspiration.” People mean well. They are trying […]
Why Women Should Stop Being the Emotional Dumping Ground for Men
For generations, women have been expected to carry not only their own burdens but also the unspoken and unresolved pain of the men around them. Women […]
Why Survivors Don’t Always Report Abuse
One of the first questions survivors are often asked is: “Why didn’t you report it?” But silence does not mean the abuse did not happen. Survivors […]
If Someone Tells You They Have Been Abused: What to Do in the First 24 Hours
When someone tells you they have been abused, your first response matters. You may feel shocked, angry or unsure what to do. But the first 24 […]
10 Things Never to Say to a Survivor of Abuse and What to Say Instead
When someone tells you they have experienced abuse, your response matters. They may have spent months or years deciding whether it was safe to speak. You […]
